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May 31Liked by Julian Gough

Very sad and very lovely Julian. The eulogy is still behind a paywall, just by the way.

Your Dad sounds like he was a great person and a great father and very loved.

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Ah Aoife, thanks. Is the paywall back up? Shite. I'll have a word with them again.

Yeah, he was a terrific dad.

We should catch up soon; you're one of the friends I feel most guilty for neglecting. I hope you are well and happy; let's talk offline, soon.

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May 31Liked by Julian Gough

I'd love that.

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Jun 1Liked by Julian Gough

It has been over a year since I've lost mine, and yesterday I was thinking about it pretty heavily and couldn't shake it; when I got an email notification reading out the title of this post. Reading it has helped ease my mind a little about my own long drawn out grief.

I am incredibly sorry for your loss, and while I believe grief tends to be unending, I hope it loosens up on you soon and creates thousands of pieces of art with inside you.

Thank you for this post, it connected with me in many ways that I needed and didn't know.

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Thank you Lynn. I'm glad my words were useful to you in your own situation. Best of luck with your voyage across grief's stormy ocean. May you find a calm harbour at the end of it.

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A beautiful trilogy. I am very moved and glad to know someone like him graced this earth.

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Thank you. I'm glad I knew him. I'm glad he was my dad.

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May 31Liked by Julian Gough

The eulogy you gave was beautiful - reading it made me appreciate what an extraordinary man your father was. I too hope when I go out I can tell everyone I want them to smile, laugh, and have fun first and foremost, and have them follow through.

And good on you for taking care of yourself in such a time - exactly the right kind of way to handle this.

Lastly, welcome back! Looking forward to reading what comes next :)

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Thanks, Dexanth. I appreciate your kind words.

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May 31Liked by Julian Gough

Incredible! An inspiration. Thank you for sharing.

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Thanks Mark.

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May 31Liked by Julian Gough

Take care of yourself. There's no timeline to grief--it's different for everyone and every relationship. I'm glad you can take comfort in the people around you.

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Lovely eulogy Julian, wonderful that your grandmother had the strength to keep him with her at those times when having a baby outside marriage was such a disgrace. That gave him such a good start in life. Did he read The Egg and the Rock?

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What a stunning eulogy. Brought tears to my eyes. I loved reading that he saw the good in everyone. What a remarkable life he led. I know all too well how hard it is to lose one's dad, so I'm sending you all the very best from New York.

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Gonna listen to Toasted Heretic; bought a Rabbit & Bear book; your father’s eulogy was lovely. Curious what his reasons were for the no-alcohol thing

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Never met your dad Julian but feel I know a flavour of him from your description and humour. May he rest in peace. Lovely writing as always and great to see the band back together albeit in sad circumstances xM

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